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This sexist emailing strategy went viral on TikTok. And it got me thinking.

Women are expected to talk less during meetings. Men in power tend to think that women can’t stop talking. But the pattern is clear and consistent: it’s usually men who won’t shut up.

When I used to mirror how men would act during teams, like them, I would brainstorm an idea. Then, a male colleague would say that I’m angry, “Hey, we’re all on the same team here!”

I never spoke harshly or raised my voice. On the contrary, he’d go on to explain his point, not…


Anyone can become a genius.

A fascinating number of modern life contraptions were invented by someone who stumbled upon a discovery or capitalized on an accident — like the microwave oven.

Most say it’s luck. Today, we call it serendipity.

For this reason, I find Galileo fascinating. Imagine if he, among many other famous discoverers, had not dedicated their lives to discovering the many wonders of the world. Without them, we’d be lost.

There’s a special name for people like him. It’s called a Super-Encounterer. One study explores unusual findings of this personage.

Generally, happy surprises popped up wherever they looked. They were the kind…


3 lessons we forget as we grow older.

During quarantine, I went back to live with my parents in our small, state-owned dwelling.

Dreams of independence and freedom were gone. I was no longer a resident at my University. And on March 11th of all days.

My 18th birthday, which is also my first pandemic birthday.

Before I set off to University, I was stuck inside my room almost every day. Never left unless it was for basic needs. Living in my room was like living in a nightmare. There was a constant cold presence and the ceiling above was growing black mold because of poor insulation. …


A powerful lesson on neuroscience tells you why.

Millions of years ago, an alien of the sea embarked on a journey. Crowned with the title of predator, it sensed the presence of other creatures and greedily consumed without a thought.

Predators emerged into more complex bodies that could twist and turn to move swiftly. Finally, they emerged a command center to make life simpler: the human brain.

The story of brain evolution embarks on the unusual findings of humans that are very often overlooked.

In short, despite relying on our brains for nearly everything in our lives, it isn’t supposed to think. Ideas fly around that our brains…


She mastered more than just sign language.

Penny, the American psychologist, holds Koko the Gorilla in her arms.
Penny, the American psychologist, holds Koko the Gorilla in her arms.

I have always believed that other animal species are just as perceptive, intelligent and feeling as we are. The only difference is, we look very different.

Koko the Gorilla had a vocabulary exceeding 1100 signs. Her IQ was that of a human infant child: slow but not intellectually impaired.

When Penny, a young graduate student in psychology, first saw a mistreated baby gorilla named Hanabi-Ko at the San Francisco Zoo, she had an inkling that the ape would become her faithful companion. But, also the subject of the most prolonged experiment ever undertaken to teach sign language to another species.


A poignant look at human condition and the beauty of impermanence.

The best things in life are temporary and fleeting.

It’s been said that nothing is truly permanent. But, in my opinion, this applies to the good things in life more than the bad. Just think about it: most things considered to be “good” are impermanent — like friends, relationships or food.

Kire means ‘to cut’ in Japanese. It is a basic trope in the Rinzai school of Zen Buddhism, as exemplified through the teachings of Zen master Hakuin. The aim of “seeing into one’s own nature” can only be realized if one has “cut off the root of life.”

In…


Psychologists weigh-in on these don’ts.

I almost failed college and stopped writing the article that reached 50,000 views because I’m a toxic perfectionist. It’s the type of mindset that determines whether you’re a “show up” kind of person.

When you experience toxic perfectionism, you know two things: it stops progress and is extremely frustrating to deal with.

Even small tasks such as emailing, which are supposed to hold my attention for long enough and feel very doable, feel too much because I always want to make things perfect.

They’ve brought out the worst in me, from leaving chores unfinished for days to nightly panic attacks…


Use motivational interviewing to subtly change someone’s mind.

A few years ago, I made the mistake of arguing with a stubborn friend. She mentioned that she would never become vaccinated — and every time I tried to reason with her, she became impossibly unreasonable. Determined to save our friendship, I tried to change her mind to understand me.

But, it didn’t work. Science tells us: humans are far less likely to listen than they are to talk.

The simpler and less gruelling approach is to use motivational interviewing. Psychologists have studied this technique for years to treat substance abuse users. …


Be the next literary legend in the making

In the spirit of reading, I have recently picked up books from my all-time favorite writer, Emily Dickinson. Given her great impression on poetry, it is hard to imagine anyone being unfamiliar with Emily Dickinson.

Dickinson was an American poet, a literature legend, but unpublished in her lifetime. She bound over 800 poems into small booklets, and these booklets were mostly kept private, only shared with her closest inner circle. These booklets were discovered and published accordingly.

Today, she is regarded to be one of the great American poets of illustrating complex emotions and ideas using metaphors from her life.


SOCIAL MEDIA

Society deems “white, pretty, and popular” as viral-worthy

Screenshot of TikTok videos.
Screenshot of TikTok videos.

As I was scrolling through TikTok, I came across a theme. There was a video of a girl singing to the side, emphasizing her side profile. One would see this and think nothing of it: I definitely didn’t. Until I read the caption.

If your nose moves while saying this you’re perfect.

Duetting that video was a Middle Eastern girl with the caption “I hate it here.” Additionally, many videos showed duets of unhappy, self-conscious teen girls with non-white features deemed as “undesirable.”

There is a weird obsession with beauty on TikTok. There is also an algorithm that everybody tends…

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